Love and Singleness

This post is to encourage single women to live purposefully and have Jesus at the focus of everything they do. As we become intentional in seeking after God, it becomes a lifestyle and then it is the greatest way to enter into a marriage.

Also, when God is at the centre of everything you do, and every decision you make, you won’t just settle for any man. Even if men are showing an interest, you will know your worth and decide that you want the best God has for you.

There is absolutely nothing wrong in waiting and neither is there anything wrong in having a healthy desire for marriage. If the Holy Spirit hasn’t confirmed that the person you have right in front of you is the one then don’t feel compelled in any way to start a relationship God hasn’t told you to enter. Wisdom is waiting for God to confirm it before jumping into a relationship.

One thing I would advise though, is to love the season you are in. You don’t want to look back on your single days as a time when you just sat down wallowing in self pity! Singleness is a blessing and, if you are currently single, it is important to ask God to show you how you can live for His glory as a single person. But also ask Him to show you how it is a blessing so that you don’t envy others – let’s be real!

I’ve said this before but I will say it again: As a single woman you can spend so much more time doing what God has called you to do. Paul even states that an unmarried woman can live a life devoted to the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:34). You literally have TIME and your attention is not as divided. But when God blesses you with a relationship, marriage and children, your home will become your first ministry. You will have less time for the things you used to do before because you will need to be intentional about making sure the verse ‘As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord’ (Joshua 24:15) actually comes to fruition.

During my time as a single woman, God has been teaching me to see the blessing in every season of my life. He has even helped me to view singleness in a way that confounds society’s perspective of it – in a positive light! The way I see it is, if I’m single and I’m living a purposeful life with Christ then that’s what God wants for me. When I enter into a relationship and get married, whilst living a purposeful life for Christ, then…guess what… that’s what God wants for me.

My marital status may have changed but my position as an ambassador for Christ is the same!